A few nights ago, a friend of mine came to me stressing about life and the pressure she was facing trying to figure out what she wanted to do with her life. After talking to her, I couldn't help but think about how the military lifestyle can be rather stressful. While I don't talk about it much, I am no exception to this. When I moved here almost a year ago, I had my expectations for life here. Now that I've been here for almost 9 months, I've seen that my expectations aren't always reality. I expected to have a job within the first few months...I'm still unemployed. I expected to have the huge network of friends like I had in college...I have a few close friends that are amazing, but not the large group I figured I'd have. I wanted my princess happily ever after...I married an amazing guy but it can still be difficult sometimes. I wanted some stability...I got a life that can be in a whole different state and very different in just 3 short years. So I can understand that this lifestyle can be very stressful and can be a challenge on people, marriages, everything. Although, listening to her, I felt blessed to have a husband who doesn't put pressure on me and who supports me whether I triumph or struggle with the Air Force lifestyle.
I also feel blessed that he and I have made a plan for having children. A lot of stress in our marriage has been financially and planning on when to start a family. Finances are still stressful as we're still paying off student loans and, with me not having a job, we're not bringing in the income we desire. However, F and I had a talk about planning a family and I am much more relaxed now that we have a plan. F has finally come to realize what I already knew, that we're never going to be completely ready, so he's agreed that we'll just go with the flow and not really try but not really not try either. Just whatever happens, happens. A baby will come when the time is right. I can't even begin to explain how relaxed this decision has made me. It's just one less thing we have to stress about in a lifestyle that already comes with a lot of stress.